Tags
'Anything with the power to make you laugh over thirty years later isn't a waste of time. I think something like that is very close to immortality.' - S.K, 'Because I could not stop for death he kindly stopped for me; The carriage held but just ourselves and immortality.' - Emily Dickinson, Ann Evans, Cheer up - you aren't dead yet *beams*, David Parry, Evan Edwards, George Manuel, Hannah Parry, Jane Griffiths, John Evans, Katherine Jones, Richard Bellis, The day of the box
Cemeteries are high on Esme’s list of favourite places to visit (along with The Transgalactic Dutch Pancake House – each offering being the size of Kerberos (one of Pluto’s most fashionable moons), and Burn Everything You Can World); there’s a stillness in such places so thick it slows your step, you may never have tried, but go wild, try and run through a cemetery, the thick waves of aether will make it feel like wading through chilly, slightly runny lemon jelly (not jam all you strange ‘mericanoes, even seedless jam cannot be run through if more than a foot deep, let’s keep it real folks and not descend into lunacy).
On the day of boxes deemed ‘Boxing Day’ by some, Esme was in a particular cemetery in North Wales, a rather tiny one, with very small markers of lives lived, and every single name she read out loud, each stone that had her fingers run across its carvings, its face and edges, burnt a scorching wee light briefly in time; those people, being remembered, being thought of, rose up and showed their immortality, albeit briefly. I hope someone else does the same at some point, I hope someone does it for you. Such immortality is gained in other ways of course, by the written word, by the stroke of a paintbrush, by image, by fable, by love.
Here is a chronicle of that which I found down in the town of Mold:
This is the view across the lefthand side, which had the most graves. Furthest right we see Hannah, wife of David Parry, Headmaster. The date is 1803 and she was 71yrs old so did very well compared to most people at the time I’d say. The poorer you were the smaller the gravestone and less lettering and numbers. Some of them have initials alone, not a figure more.
To the right a long list of such initials, with just the date of their demise, all connected to the Evans family if the inscription below is anything to go by: John Evans aged 70 and Edward Evans aged 14.
Immediately to the left lie the Edwards family, a tragic tale, yet one that burns no less brightly.
Another long-timer! Jane, wife of Sam Griffiths, died aged 81 in 1843. The colours of the lichen against the weathering was absolutely beautiful, so vivid I’ve had to reduce the saturation on some of the photos so the writing can be seen well. To the right lies J.W a silent witness and to the left, I can’t quite make out the name, it begins with a P or R, and the surname is possibly ‘Minor’.
This little one was bowed, however, I leaned underneath and found ‘Katherine Jones 1726’ with a pretty wee carved design above.
This was one of the very few larger stones, and one with an unusual shape. I very much like the ‘Underneath’ at the top. Here be the wordage;
‘Underneath lie the remains of George, son of Ambrose and Susannah Manuel who departed this life December 14th 1831 aged 16 years’. Their daughter Elizabeth died ages 26 yrs and Louisa Jones is scribed down there too, dying aged 28. Life was so much more a fragile entity back then.
There is a small verse too.
‘Why do you mourn my parents dear
or shake at death’s alarms;
Tis just the voice that Jesus sends
To call us to his arms.’
Initials and dates again here, I would draw your attention to the clear sign that Edward and Joseema pop up all over the show, calling to me. The same scene follows from a distance with Rosie’s head getting in on the action as it shows the scale well.
Finally, we have Richard Bellis, died aged 21 in 1831, and important enough to have his occupation inscribed like the Headmaster. The ‘N’ has been impressed backwards by mistake, I’ll bet the carver swore to high heaven and back when he realised! He also appears to have run out of space for the word ‘pain’ and shoved it on the end, hahahahaha.
The script hit home with Esme, and like as not will do with others reading this, he must have been plagued with terrible pain.
Long nights and days I bore grate pain
to try for cure it was in vain
God give me ease he thought it best
he took my pain and give me rest.
Thank you for your words, Richard Bellis.
Despite all the early death recorded here, the place and the visit were neither morbid in feel nor heavy to hold, if anything it lightened Esme’s own wings, for there is love woven throughout there.
You remind me a little of my wife. Back in the day, in summertime, she had a habit of sleeping in graveyards out of choice. Good fortune smiled on me, at that part of my life we were yet to meet each other. Jolly fine post. The Old Fool
LikeLiked by 3 people
The Old Fool. Hahahahaha. I take the reminder as a compliment of course, we cemetery haunters are rare but very collectable. I’m very pleased you enjoyed the trip!
-Esme Cloud – (Fool’s Gold)
LikeLike
‘Tis that’s me who is The Old Fool. Not your goodself. I well recall The Vikngs ‘old way’ in such matters of death, notwithstanding the thoroughly enjoyable trip you afforded me. I am a time-traveller after all. Best of everything to you, The Aged Old Fool
LikeLike
Oh I know, It was you I meant, but that was on another comment. Hahahahaha, I was just making it clear that I didn’t start the rumour, you did falls about The best of it all back old friend, time is all we have you know.
Esme Cloud (otherwise known as Pyrites to her friends winking at him) x
LikeLiked by 1 person
“Even the markers of life’s themselves, eventually yearn to the earth from whence they came, welcoming home”.
Very nice work today! I enjoyed this a lot.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Thank you Jim, I appreciate your wordage too, not everyone’s bag I suspect, I’m glad it’s yours!
Esme Cloud waving from behind the gravestones
LikeLike
My wife loves cemeteries. Every where we go on trip we have to stop and walk. Pretty cool really. Never tried running. Thanks for the tip
LikeLiked by 1 person
Oooh, you and Mike (The Old Fool (his words not mine, hahahaha) have something in common with each other then, and both your wives join Esme in loving them. Excellent, you’re in the right club here clearly.
LikeLiked by 1 person
I had it in my thoughts that backwards letters ment something. But the wee man in my head who does the filling says that knowledge was used by a grey mouse to build a nest. The mouse itself said it’s sure it read that it was to confuse the devil but mice can be flighty creatures so who can say if it’s just a fluff dream.
LikeLiked by 2 people
You’re onto something Mantha, I’ve looked into it further and found this ‘The backward capital letter N seems common on graves from the 17-1800’s. Still used even up to the early part of the last century. Sometimes found on signs and objects other than grave markers from the same time frame.’ Some say its a nod to God so he can read the letter from up above but I can’t see why just one letter would be backwards in that case. Another person said their gran always told them a backwards letter on a gravestone indicated suicide, but I’d question that too as if it were known as a suicide they’d not have been allowed to be buried in the church graveyard.
I know your mouse. But then I am the devil.
Esme thanking Mantha and handing over some Cloud made bread for her mouse to nibble on
LikeLiked by 2 people
While you were flitting down in low-lit Mold I was at Beaumaris in pouring rain. Mold is somewhere that figures in a past life in which a grim granny in Prestatyn was frequently visited. A place the old Ford Consul passed through but never stopped at. Its mention by the parents anyway always caused a sense of vague disquiet, and I’ve never thought of it until this moment. But now you have invoked fresh spirits, whose gravestones are really rather remarkable, not least for the particular quality of the carving, but also because we can still salute Kathrine Jones died 1726. You are right. We should visit graveyards more often. Which reminds me, have you read Terry Pratchett’s ‘Johnny and the Dead’? Wishing you fair cosmic resonances up in the clouds in 2020. Cheers, Esme!
LikeLiked by 2 people
‘a past life in which a grim granny in Prestatyn was frequently visited’ – Hahahahahaha, brilliant. It is an odd place, neither here nor there in some ways, but does have a Pound Bakery that sells vegan sossie rolls at a pound for two, so I can’t diss it really falls about. I’d not have swapped it for Beaumaris, purely due to the fact that I melt in the rain. I hope you had a fine NYE!
I have read said tome, I was and remain an avid fan of Terry, he is much missed. Great little book.
Thank you for your tale Tish! Yes, tonight I raise my glass to Katherine Jones.
Here’s the car mentioned for those interested, an absolute cracker – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ford_Consul
LikeLiked by 2 people
Ha! Loving that Ford Consul. Chin-chin, Esme on your des res cloud.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Made me think of Ford Prefect – Hitchikers Guide to the Galaxy! Ha!
Esme Cloud chin, chinneny chinning back with ice clinking
LikeLiked by 1 person
*took
Norfolk Island has a great cemetery. The convicts who committed suicide have their headstones faced away from the ocean, which I thought a rather horrible thing to do.
LikeLiked by 1 person
It depends on how horrible a thing they did, but we cannot know, so many injustices have occurred through the say of one against another. I see that Norfolk Island is not just off the coast of Norfolk (rather disappointingly). I would like to visit now. Why *took? Have I made a spellink mistake? I’ll right my wrong (‘uns) in the morning if so, for the sandman is dragging at my toes just now (cheeky sod). Thanks for the visit dearie.
LikeLike
In Bellis’ words, he wrote ‘took,’ you have ‘too’… Yes, I’m an editing Nazi 🙂
Their horrible act was committing suicide, so they were buried facing away from the ocean like everyone else. Unlike Bellis, they couldn’t wait for God to take their pain away.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Thank you, I welcome such corrections, it’s so easy to miss letters out.
Life was so battering back then (still is for far too many) the one escape that’s guaranteed if successful, is completely so. What’s done to the dead across the earth is interesting.
Esme happy for John to step on geese across the Cloud
LikeLiked by 1 person
Norfolk was not a great place for convicts.
LikeLiked by 1 person
I’ve been reading up on the place – ‘more than half were detained at Norfolk Island without ever receiving a colonial conviction, and only 15% had been reprieved from a death sentence. Furthermore, the overwhelming majority of convicts sent to Norfolk Island had committed non-violent property sentences.‘ They were sent there for life, starved, flogged and tortured. ‘The 1846 report of magistrate Robert Pringle Stuart exposed the scarcity and poor quality of food, inadequacy of housing, horrors of torture and incessant flogging, insubordination of convicts, and corruption of overseers – in particular, the punishments given for seemingly trivial offences, are unremittingly horrifying, describing a settlement devoid of all human decency, under the iron rule of the tyrannical autocratic commandants.‘ – Hell on earth if ever I heard of it, and heard of it I had not previously. There’s none so cruel and heartless as those named (with retrospective irony) man’kind’.
LikeLiked by 1 person
I’ve been there many times, it’s beautiful, but I cannot fathom how horrid that rock in the middle of nowhere was in the 1800’s.
Oh, and it’s waters are filled with bus-sized sharks. Go down to Kingston Jetty at night, when the fishermen are cleaning their fish, and it’s a horror show.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Blimey, I think I’ll pass on that one, though I would like to visit the island.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Hi Esme! Thanks so very muchly for these fascinating photos, and the lore before as it wore.
We have a fine old cemetery a very short walk from our house — the remains of my mother’s side o’ the family — remain about 100 meters from this very geography actually: ‘tother side of the road. The Witte and Lutkenhoff clans, including grandparents born in the 19th Century. Though not a four-hundred-year-old in the lot.
“Despite all the early death recorded here, the place and the visit were neither morbid in feel nor heavy to hold, if anything it lightened Esme’s own wings, for there is love woven throughout there.”
My sentiments entirely. 🙂
LikeLiked by 2 people
Glad to hear it Bill – the agreement rather than that the remains sit there specifically, though of course they must end up somewhere and somewhere visitable is certainly handy. The ancestors. In Moomin world there is a character called ‘The Ancestor’ (Swedish: Förfadern). It is a small furry apelike troll appearing in Moominland Midwinter and Moominvalley in November. It dwells inside the Moomin family’s stove, and is thought to be an ancient ancestor of Moomintroll. Nice fur, have a gander;
LikeLiked by 1 person
Great post my friend.
I hardly visit cemeteries or graveyards. I think they are so quiet you can hear the dead talk.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you Mak, I’m very pleased you enjoyed it. I agree, I think you can too.
LikeLike
I’m spoiled for cemeteries here (Paris) and if I want to get away from the celebrities, I go to the catacombs.
LikeLiked by 2 people
I’ve been to one, Père Lachaise, mainly to lounge around Oscar Wilde and Jim Morrison, getting merrily drunk and reading poetry. This was in my youth I should add. Hahahahaha. It’s a beautiful place, all those wee houses for the dead. Coincidentally, I have also been through the catacombs, it was quite an experience; as I was leaving the guard checked everyone’s bags and the woman in front of me had stolen one of the skulls. They just took it off her and sent her on her way, hahahahaha. It is an ‘open’ cemetery for all who traverse the paths to see, skulls and all manner of bones line the walls in patterns and the like. I thought the entrance particularly useful in its signage – ‘Arrête! C’est ici l’empire de la Mort’, being able to read French helped of course. ‘Stop! Here lies The Empire of the Dead.’ It couldn’t be more succinct. I think I did a post about it many years back actually. Anyway, thank you Yahooey!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Père Lachaise is my favourite with my favourite stop being Héloïse’s and Abelard’s grave (especially if I am giving a tour to a female friend). Montparnasse is good also with Sartre and de Beauvoir among its famous inhabitants (nothing like a little coincidental existentialism in a cemetery).
I love the story about the catacombs because I have never seen anyone caught. I wonder how many dead French have managed to make it through the check and are now sitting on a bookshelf.
That sign at the entrance makes me chuckle – it always makes me think of something you would see in a cheap horror movie (or Scooby Doo). Half the signs are there to scare you of hell. It’s other half that I like best.
LikeLiked by 1 person
I envy your access and thinking the laydeez are most likely impressed with your knowledge of the dead too, laughs.
It’s interesting that someone would want to take someone’s head home with them. A stranger’s head, not even anyone they know! Hahahahahaha. All very Yorick gets her ruff on (freak in back pocket)
“Let me see. (takes the skull) Alas, poor Yorick! I knew him, Horatio, a fellow of infinite jest, of most excellent fancy. He hath borne me on his back a thousand times, and now, how abhorred in my imagination it is!” – Esme bows and hopes she doesn’t look too rough in her ruff
The signs are brilliant, and you’re spot on, they add a little humour to the natural drama looking like a Hammer Horror film straight off.
LikeLike
Roll dem bones.
I thought you rolled the r’s of abhorrence purrfectly.
I imagine that most skull thieves are of a culture to think that the skull goes with the prince’s existential crisis.
LikeLiked by 1 person
All that space uncarv’d on Richard Bellis’ stone. I wonder if he expected someone to join him in his grave, and no-one ever did, or else they did and there was no money to carve the stone further, so they are forgotten.
And, considering how poor a carver the carver was, suddenly having to use small letters, making the N an И, his sans serif is very pretty.
LikeLiked by 3 people
Yes, I noticed that, on his stone and others; the huge empty spaces where they assumed their children and grandchildren would one day have their names inscribed. A tale told of never to exist futures, or ones too poor as you say to achieve a record. Well spotted Clare.
I think he did a marvellous job considering. it adds personality to the writing nods.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Quite enchanting, and the North Wales weather has created some exquisite colourings, along with the iron(?) in the stone. It’s almost as if there’s an inverse correlation between the decaying bodies which eventually fade to nought but dust or less, and the ever-increasing beauty of the memorials which mark their final resting place. Perhaps that’s a metaphor for how our actions reach down through time — whether it be via our descendents or the deeds we performed during our lifetime. A lovely post!
LikeLike
Yes, iron stains nods. I like that thought Hariod – that as the mortal remains break down to nought so too the stones increase in beauty – their mottled stained mantles all so very individual, just like those below. Great comment! Thank you H, most appreciated.
LikeLiked by 1 person
I love old graveyards! And with you on jelly vs jam 😉😘
LikeLiked by 1 person
I knew you would. beams
Esme and Bela having jam on toast and jelly with ice cream like civilised folk upon the Cloud ❤
LikeLiked by 1 person
EXACTLY!! 😇😍
LikeLiked by 1 person
HAHAHAHAHA
Esme ❤ X
LikeLiked by 1 person